Fall is here in the Northwest and with it crisp temperatures with a bit of morning mist giving way to warm sunny days. Though I love the change of seasons I must admit I am mourning the end of summer just a bit.
Out on the golf course yesterday the deep green of the fir trees against the bright changing colors of red and gold on the stately maples created a stunning display. As we walked the course we stepped (and lost a ball or two) among the vibrant leaves the trees had already cast off.
The trees provide a beautiful example of letting things go. We know it is only a matter of time before Spring arrives. With it new growth will appear, and the trees will display a vibrant new life. This example can be true of us as well. There are changing seasons in our own lives – times where we need to take stock and do some casting off of things it is time to end.
Here are some areas to consider:
- Let go of the past. Sometimes we get stuck in mistakes and regrets of the past, continually ruminating over them. When we are stuck in this unhealthy pattern it keeps us from living our best today. It is important to reflect on your past – to be grateful for the lessons you have learned and to allow them to propel you into the success story of your future. Then you simply must let go of the rest. The past is the past, and you are writing a new story today.
- Let go of what is finished. Sometimes we know in our heart that something is done, yet we keep hanging on to it. Those projects we are involved in or commitments on our calendar. Why do we do this? I find for myself that my identity can get wrapped up in things I am part of where the routine is comfortable. You are not meant to stay in one place. Growth depends on being able to determine when it is time to end something.
- Let go of unhealthy relationships. Sometimes we cling to certain people for far too long. Jim Rohn is famous for saying, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” Whether we like it or not, we are heavily influenced by those closest to us. Others can affect how you think, how you spend your time, and even how you make decisions. Those in your inner circle relationships should be positive, uplifting, and dependable all of the time.
- Let go of bad behaviors. Sometimes it is not relationships but our own behaviors that get in the way of our success. These blind spots if not managed will have negative consequences. Are there dysfunctional behaviors or patterns that continue to rear their ugly head in your life? If a bad behavior or habit is holding you back from the positive contribution you bring, recognize it and make a plan to correct it.
What are you holding on to that it is time to let go? When you let go you create the space in your life for something better. It is only when you release the things you no longer need that you are free to embrace new opportunities and to become who you are truly meant to be.